Online Therapy 10 Tips. Getting the best from SKYPE counselling and Therapy.

Using SKYPE or other related online counselling platforms.

Ten Tips to get the best from online counselling.

  1. When having your online counselling session close other internet using programs, you may not be using them, but they will be using some of your available internet resources, this can cause the connection to be problematic. For example, browsers, other online communication tools and cloud backup can slow your system down. Other devices connected to your internet will also slow things down.
  2. Get the lighting right! You need to be seen and by having good lighting this can make all the difference.
  3. Interruptions … Put the do not disturb sign on the door, put your mobile out of reach and on silent, switch off anything that alerts you to messages on your screen… this is your time, you need to remove the possibility of distraction… including the cat!
  4. What’s the picture like, you should be at least head and shoulders in the picture, and siting comfortably, think passport photo.
  5. It’s often a good idea to wear headphones, it reduces echo and enables an extra level of confidentiality for you. Having the headphones on, I feel, can really bring you into the session.
  6. Can you be overheard, because if you can, or even wonder if you can be, that won’t work. you need to know that your session is confidential.
  7. Have a backup! If all else fails (technically) you and your therapist should have a plan. the one I have with clients is I will call them on their landline or mobile.
  8. Research and know the level of confidentiality offered by the technology you are using, and make sure you are happy with it. Google will help you find this information and the technology provider’s privacy statement.
  9. When people come to face 2 face therapy they often have a bit of time to process the session, this can be the journey home or to work, when they do their session online at home or work, they often go straight back into their day. Try and have a bit of a break between your session and being pulled back into your day.
  10. If you are concerned about any aspect of your online counselling, including the medium you are using, talk with your therapist, share your concerns.

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Andrew Harvey offers online counselling and therapy worldwide.

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Anxiety is top of the list for people seeking counselling and therapy

What are people bringing to counselling? Anxiety tops the list

People come to counselling for all sorts of reasons, from help with a mental health issue to wanting time and space to explore life options. Below is a list of the most searched terms that people use when looking for counselling and therapy help, the ones I have included are all related to the work that I do.

What is of note is the number of diagnostic labels and terms that people use in their searches, this might reflect an increased awareness of mental health conditions or that more people are searching for help from the private sector for these challenges.  Anxiety consistently comes up in the therapy room and in the list of what people search, addiction appears to be on the rise in searches as does personality disorders.  Many people come to therapy without words or a label for what is wrong and that can be part of the therapy process, to help the person discover what is wrong and understand it, it is then that changes can happen.

Anxiety continues to be the most searched term on  Counselling Directories.

relationship issues

generalised anxiety disorder

depression

bipolar disorder/manic depression

panic disorder

seasonal affective disorder (sad)

phobias

family issues

addiction(s) I have a website dedicated to this type of counselling and therapy here

affairs and betrayals

separation and divorce

abuse

anger management

bereavement

low self-esteem

emotional abuse

alcoholism

sexual abuse

personality disorders

sex addiction

gambling

low self-confidence

drug abuse

internet addiction

borderline personality disorder

stress

domestic violence

bullying

disabilities

carer support

narcissistic personality disorder

post-traumatic stress disorder (ptsd)

work related stress

suicidal thoughts

avoidant personality disorder

self-harm

trauma

obsessive-compulsive personality disorder

paranoid personality disorder

dependent personality disorder

antisocial personality disorder

histrionic personality disorder

schizoid personality disorder

passive aggressive behavior

sexuality

mental health

For help with any of these issues and other emotional difficulties please do make contact

Anxiety

A Book Recommendation

Can a Mindfulness book offer therapy for Anxiety?

I recently had the opportunity to take a holiday and took time to revisit a book that I really enjoyed “Mindfulness – Be Mindful…. Live in the moment” by Gill Hanson. The book itself, I feel, offers in itself some therapy for anxiety, offering suffers possibly a new and deeper understanding of anxiety and worry, this deeper understanding can often help people become less anxious.

therapy for anxiety

The book: “Mindfulness – Be Mindful.. Live in the moment” by Gill Hanson.

I experience so often clients feelings of depression are in the past, and anxiety often has a future focus, the present, when approached mindfully, can often offer a place of serenity and peace. The present moment actually becomes a present indeed.

Anyone who takes an interest in counselling, psychology and therapy will be aware of the growing talk of Mindfulness, many therapies increasingly engage with and incorporate concepts of mindfulness.

Clients report to me the benefits of mindfulness practice and I myself both formally and informally incorporate it both into my counselling practice and life. I often recommend mindfulness and discuss with clients how they might approach it, I often find clients who are seeking help and therapy for anxiety benefit from it.

This book I feel is one of the best books I have read on the subject of Mindfulness, offering both practical experiences and some theoretical depth. Interestingly its a fun read also!  I enjoyed it more this time around than the first time I read it, maybe I was more “present” this time!

If you find the book of interest and want to learn more, a number of therapist offer mindfulness courses and I am happy to recommend one or two. I have also found some wonderful free podcasts and online courses. Many people have found Mindfulness to greatly benefit them, however, keep in mind that not everyone finds it helpful and some find it unhelpful.

Conditions of Worth, Incongruence and the Aging Rock Star

Conditions of Worth, Incongruence and the Aging Rock Star

danny-collins

I went to see a film last night and I was so struck by how, for me, it really illustrated Carl Rogers theory that informs much of my work. The film Danny Collins charts Danny’s sometimes painful journey from incongruence to congruence (terms used to describe one’s drift from true self (congruence) to who we become to fit with others’ expectations (incongruence)). Or in terms of the film, literally dancing and singing to someone else’s tune and the growing awareness of the discomfort of this, and how this discomfort caused Danny to look inside to discover his own calling, his own truth and his own way of being. I am not sure if my take on the film is anything like anyone else’s, or in line with the intent of those who created the film, but for me, it really did express and illuminate Rogers theory.

One aspect of the film that struck me was just how much courage it can take to live one’s own truth, especially when others place so much importance upon the aspects of a person that do not, in fact, fit with their true selves; in this case the desire of Danny’s fans for him to sing his hit records and “play” the role they so desire. I was also struck by the way that Danny became his truer self in the context of relationship: another key aspect of the work I do being the therapeutic relationship as a major part of the therapeutic process.

The film ended at a place that I didn’t want it to end, and this reminds me of the journey from our truth to our becoming what’s expected of us, to the discomfort of this, to the journey back to truth; a journey that is the thing in itself: it’s not the end that counts, it’s the getting there, and maybe the film might never have been able to conclude neatly, as I am not sure it would have respected its authenticity.

What an uplifting experience it was to see this film and it has for me, reaffirmed my respect for those that enter into therapy to seek their truth, to face their fears and to do their best to dance to their own tune. It has also reminded me of the simplicity and truth to be found in the work of Carl Rogers and the therapists who carry on doing as he did and witness the growth of people as they rediscover who they truly are.

I hope I haven’t spoiled the film for anyone, and have on purpose left out a number of other parts of the film, I would be interested in others’ take on the film; do feel free to email me.

Links to information that may be of interest in relation to the above.

Carl Rodgers        Carl Rodgers Theory        The Film Danny Collins

Written by Andrew Harvey

The Contribution of Private Counselling

The Contribution of Private Counselling

Private Practice counselling and therapy has a great deal to contribute to the lives of the people it serves. In consultation with the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy Private Practice Executive Committee, Patti Wallace, BACP Lead Advisor Private Practice, has produced a briefing paper on the specific contribution of private practice counselling. We feel this document really articulates effectively why people choose to engage with private counsellors and therapists and the valuable contribution private counselling services make not only to individuals but to the wider community.

You can download the paper here

The Conclusion of the document is reproduced below.

Private practice counselling makes a significant contribution to both prevention and intervention in relation to psychological distress and mental illness in the general population. In order to ensure the greatest benefit to the client, it is important that the public and other professionals are aware of its value relative to statutory and voluntary sector provision, and have the knowledge to access and refer to private practitioners where appropriate to the client’s circumstances.

The Contribution of Private Counselling

The list below gives an up-to-date (April 2015) overview of the types of issues and difficulties  people might come to private counselling and therapy for, it is produced using the most frequently searched terms by people accessing one of the leading counselling directories in the UK.

Anxiety, relationship issues, depression, generalised anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder/manic depression, postnatal depression, seasonal affective disorder (sad), family issues , panic disorder, addiction(s), affairs and betrayals, phobias, separation and divorce, cross cultural relationships, pre-nuptial counselling, abuse, anger management, bereavement, couples issues , personality disorders, child related issues, attachment disorder , eating disorders, alcoholism, emotional abuse, low self-esteem, sexual abuse, drug abuse , binge-eating disorder , stress, low self-confidence , gambling, anorexia nervosa, sex addiction, borderline personality disorder

Counselling Services Nottingham is a Private Counselling & Therapy service based in two locations in Nottingham and available nationally Via SKYPE. As full members of the BACP we adhere fully to their code of conduct. For more information on any of the Private Counselling and Therapy Services, we provide please do contact us.